The Governance of Intimacy: A Preliminary Policy Analysis of Romantic AI Platforms

Abstract: Romantic AI platforms invite intimate emotional disclosure, yet their data governance practices remain underexamined. This preliminary study analyses the Privacy Policies and Terms of Service of six Western and Chinese romantic AI platforms. We find that intimate disclosures are often positioned as reusable data assets, with broad permissions for storage, analysis, and model training. We identify default training appropriation, ownership reconstruction, and intimate history assetization as key mechanisms structuring these practices, expanding platforms' rights while shifting risk onto users. Our findings surface key governance challenges in romantic AI and are intended to provoke discussion and inform future empirical and design research on human AI intimacy and its governance.